We have not gone far into the year but I have learnt a valuable lesson that I hope to carry with me for the rest of the year. I am naturally quite petty and do not forgive easily. I will occasional seek revenge or react when people wrong me.
But recent events have made me realize that reacting to everything people do to me is not always the answer. Sometimes not giving a response at all when we are wronged is also a response. It is a peaceful and a better way of handling certain sensitive issues.
I am not saying one should not react at all to things when they occur. I think it is better to weigh ones reactions before reacting to things. Just two days after the new year, I was on my way to visit a friend when I bumped into a young man who mistakenly poured oil on my dress.
I was expecting an apology from this young man but he got angry and started to insult me. He asked me if I was blind or couldn’t see. I was so upset and I reacted in a similar manner to teach him a lesson. I wanted to prove to him that I am no pushover or doormat for anyone to walk on.
After I spent a little time reflecting on what had happened, I realized that I could have just walked away instead of losing my cool like that in public. It didn’t make me any happier after all the insult I threw back at him. I wish I had walked away and not said anything in return.
It is very difficult to turn the other cheek especially when the other party wronged you and refuses to apologise. Nonetheless for peace to reign, one must be willing to forgive people even when they don’t ask for it. There is no use for an eye an for eye otherwise we will all be blind in the end.
I encourage you to learn to make peace even when the other party seeks to make things difficult for you. It makes you a better person instead of a bitter person!