A pastor friend told me to have sex with my husband every day. I told him that in my opinion, we have enough sex. Apparently, to a man, there’s nothing like enough sex. Interesting!
The busy schedules of this modern world can cause couples to lose their sex lives while some of them seek to experiment with others other than their spouses because they feel they’ve lost their sex drive.
Marriage is such a long journey and overlooking things like sex can easily creep in and cause problems. Sex starts in the mind. In my opinion, you have to make a conscious effort to think about sex to be able to have a good sex life… or since good is relative, an okay sex life. I moved from not thinking about sex for a while because of other many things that had occupied my mind.
Communication is very important in every relationship and couples should openly talk about sex. A frank talk about your sex life with your partner will help you realize the loopholes. Since we are supposed to be watching each other’s backs, why shouldn’t we be frank with each other. There’s absolutely no offense in telling your spouse your sex life is suffering.
So, I moved from not thinking about sex to thinking about sex regularly where I had to consciously tell myself that in a week, I should have sex like 3 or 4 days. And since my partner didn’t know about the timetable in my head, we would have sex on Monday, and in my mind, Tuesday is rest day for me, and on and on.
But surprisingly, I realized I was moving from rest days to like 3 days in a row, and I seriously did not think it was possible to do that because of tiredness and all. But yeah, having sex with your spouse three days in a row with each episode going beyond one round is very possible.
I am yet to try having sex all week. I will definitely let you know how it goes. So, dear wives, skip the “I have a headache” episode and try having sex with a headache. Just try, try, try. It doesn’t kill. You are tired? Tell him that today you are tired so it won’t last long, it’s fine. Just enjoy yourselves. If you don’t try, how will you know what works and what doesn’t.
But don’t they say women enjoy sex more than men? I think it’s true. I told a friend that women really suffer so our reward is gooood sex. So why deny yourself your reward dear woman?
Now to the men, affection is not sex, having sex with your wife doesn’t mean you are showing affection. A woman needs to be told by her husband “I love You” every day, many times in the day, just as men need sex, errrm every day. Give me my affection while I give you sex? We would all enjoy the sex and I will enjoy affection so I get double! Cool!
Hold her hands, surprise her by cooking for her, fetch water for her. Fill the marriage box with every beautiful thing. A woman doesn’t want affection, she needs affection. And they say men don’t want sex, they need sex.
Try things and know what works for you both. It’s your marriage so make it beautiful and enjoy it and stop looking elsewhere to get what your spouse can give you. It’s all in the communication and dedication for the marriage. Just don’t give up yet, everything is possible so far as you are both in good health conditions.
So, this is to having sex with our spouses every day! Cheers!