Modern technology has changed the way we interact with each other. We have become dependent on technology to carry out basic daily interactions amongst ourselves as humans. Technology has made us more connected than ever. We no longer have to wait for replies to our messages; responses arrive almost instantly. But how is technology affecting our relationship with our loved ones?
Experts believe that technology has become a leading cause of conflicts in relationships among people. According to a 2014 research conducted by Pew Research Centre, shows that 1 in 4 four people in romantic relationships perceived their partner to be distracted by their cell phones. Furthermore, 1 in 10 had also argued with a partner about excessive time spent on their devices.
Spending a lot of time on cell phones is believed to be affecting intimacy between couples. It has reduced the amount of time people spend talking to each other physically. Couples who before the advent of social media and cell phones would spend quality time building intimacy are now faced with spending little or no time together.
The use of technology has also led to mistrust between couples. Most couples prohibit their partners from picking up their phone calls or going through their phones without permission. It is considered rude or a breach of privacy when this occurs. This leaves partners feeling insecure about what the other has on their phone.
Marriage in the traditional sense encourages oneness and being open with each other. There is minimal privacy in this type of relationship. It is, therefore, conflicting when couples try to build a privacy wall in their relationship. To an extent, one should have access to their partners’ phone without any prohibition. But this must be done with respect and curtsey. Conversations and agreement has to be had on this subject. Both parties must decide on what they think is best for the relationship.
Can we, therefore, ban technology from our relationships? That is next to impossible. Baning technology is not the answer, encouraging moderation is the way to go. Couples must draw the line by developing an alone time to spend time together. An alone time is setting aside a period within the day where couples can spend quality time without their cell phones beeping or ringing. Furthermore, they can also encourage trust by discussing access to each other’s cell phone. Every relationship is different, it is important partners understand and institute measures works for them.