Many years ago, a husband was sitting outside their house chatting with his father who had visited he and his wife. His father spoke to him about adult life, marriage, responsibilities, and obligations. He advised the couple on the importance of maintaining friendship. Noticing that his children were surprised at his statement, gave them reasons.
‘Never forget your friends; they will become more important as you get older. Regardless of how much you love your family and the children you happen to have, you will always need friends. Remember to go out with them occasionally, do activities with them, and call them.
‘What strange advice’, the wife thought because she had been advised at her traditional ceremony to stay away from her friends as her husband was to be her one and only friend.
Her husband who was having similar thoughts said, ‘We just entered the married world, I am an adult and surely my wife and the family that we will start will be everything I need to make sense of my life.’
Well, the couple heeded the advice of the father and kept in touch with their friends and annually increased their number. After a couple of years, the man realized that his father knew what he was talking about when he gave them the advice. Eventually, the man realized that in as much as time and nature carry out their designs and mysteries on a man, friends were the bulwarks of his life. After over 50 years of life, here is what he learned:
Life goes on.
The distance separates.
Children grow up.
Children cease to be children and become independent. And to be parents it breaks the heart but the children are separated of the parents. Jobs come and go.
Illusions, desires, attraction, sex…weaken.
People do not do what they should do.
The heart breaks.
The parents die.
Colleagues forget the favors.
The races are over.
But, true friends are always there, no matter how long or how many miles they are.
The friend is never more distant than the reach of a need, bearing you, intervening in your favor, waiting for you with open arms or blessing your life.
When we started this adventure called LIFE, we did not know of the incredible joys and sorrows that were from each other. Love your parents, take care of your children, but keep a group of friends. Dialogue with them but do not impose your criteria.